I resigned from my job today (again… hehe). One of the companies I interviewed for a couple of weeks back came through with an offer that was too good to pass up. I start my new job on the 1st of November.
When I handed my boss my letter of resignation, he questioned my decision to leave (as he is entitled to, I suppose) and asked if I am sure that this is what I wanted to do.
When I said yes, he remarked that everyone has a price.
While I realise that more money is not the only reason why I’m leaving, I have to admit that it played a considerable role in the decision making process. There were other things such as job satisfaction, my ambition, career prospects and my sense of self-worth to consider, but I probably would not have made this decision for less money.
Everyone has a price. This kind of thinking leaves me cold and filled with dread to some degree. On the one side it says you are jaded and cynical and basically have no faith in humanity, while on the other you might argue that you are just being realistic and recognising that “the love of money”, as the saying goes, “is the root of all evil”.
Some people claim they would do anything for money. Like the movie Indecent Proposal would you sleep with someone for a million dollars? What other crazy things would you be willing to do if you were paid enough? Would you sleep with the boss for that job promotion? Would you mooch off of your rich friends. Would you evict a poor tenant who cannot pay? Pollute a community? Cheat on your taxes?
You are prolly shaking your head right now and saying, “I wouldn’t do any of these things… not for any amount of money”. But what if your circumstances were so dire and so desperate that you really can’t see a way out them? Why do people sell out on their moral beliefs? Is it because they believe that money can buy happiness, or is it more likely because people think that money can buy security? Or at least give the false impression of security.
Rarely are the circumstances as straight forward as when you ask a straight guy, “Would you French kiss another dude for a million dollars?” is it? Without hesitation 99% of the guys asked would say no. But how different is this situation really from the hot girl at the church fair who charges two quid for a kiss on the mouth? “Ahh”, you say, “but it is for a good cause. It is for charity”. But then you could also argue that you are your own charity. Or is it ok because she kisses members of the opposite sex, despite the fact that many of the men she kisses are married?
Just for the record (and please, do not over-analyse this!), show me a briefcase with a million in cash and I’ll be the “pretend fag” with the bottle of Listerine Mouthwash and a packet of Wrigley’s gum. I am confident enough in my own skin to know that one kiss does not make you a gay man. Let’s talk again when I walk away with the million, and when no one remembers what I did a month from now.
I guess the real question (imho) you need to ask yourself is whether you will be able to live with yourself (and the consequences) knowing what you had to do to earn the cash. Perhaps my view is too simplistic and I am not really thinking about this clearly and rationally.
Some things are morally inexcusable and regardless of which way you slice it, no amount of money could make what you did seem right. For other things it is truly up to the individual and what direction you moral compass points to.
Do I have a price? In as much as I would like to believe that I don’t, I guess I do. It all depends on the situation, where I draw that line in the sand and what the mental impact of my actions will have on my life and the lives of others.
Do you have a price… or don’t you?
Money, money, money… must be funny…
October 16, 2007 by chitty



(Holding hands up here) I will totally sleep with someone for a million quid. I wish I was a better person and said ‘oh never, never, never’. I am no damn fool. A million pounds? Come on, seriously when you think that money can set you up for life, can you really turn it down. Okay, okay I hear the cries for ‘oh that would make you a prostitute’. For a million call me what the hell you like. I will be very hurt in my mortgage, debt free, great education for my future kids existence-not! Chitty to your question, I will be able to live very well with the consequences and sleep like a baby (on fine Egyptian cotton sheets, but not obviously the same one the dirty deed was committed on) If taking ten minutes out of your life, is going to gain you a million. Bring it on.
On the other hand evicting a poor tenant is something different. That will kill me but if it means losing the property because the mortgage isn’t being paid, he gots to go!!
Congrats on your new job, guess the champers is on you
We regularily discuss this actually. I think everyone has a price for just about anything really. There is an awful lot that I would do for a few thousands pounds and for the perfect job there is probably plenty more that I would do.
I know that I’d definitely sleep with someone for a certain price (everyone has a different price and it sometimes depends on what time of the month it is and how your bank balance looks) and I know I’d kick out a broke tenant. Actually I know that I basically have very few scruples, but my morals do still stand and I would never do murder someone for money nor would I cheat on my taxes!
Oh yes congrats on the job!!!!!!!!
A few months ago I got asked this question, and ended up sitting down and writing out a price list. Fairly reasonable prices as well for most things.
And yes, I would definitely be able to live with myself afterwards for most of the things on the list.
A price? Hmm… Depends. Are we talking about individual body-parts here, or the whole shebang?
hmm…
Chitty, Congratulations on your new job!
Concerning your question: I don’t have a price, I’m sure of that. There’s nothing in the world that could buy me. I always think of this matter, but as I know very well-off people who suffer tremendously for their money, having what I need and not much more is perfect. I don’t need to “provide” future generations of “pequeñas orquideas” and if there’s something I need badly, I work harder to get it.
When I was in my twenties, I used to think I’d be inclined to change my opinion sometime. Now I’m in my early thirties and I think exactly the same!
There’s one matter that could make reconsider the whole subject though, if a loved relative would be ill and need a special treatment, I’ll do whatever to provide him/her a cure.
Congrats on the new job! It feels like not so long ago that I said that before.
A price? Probably, but I’ve never really thought about it. Sleep with a 90 year old grandma to inherit her fortune? Not sure if I could do it.
Maybe I should make a list like Mr Rabbit and see where it leads me.
some time ago, I actually did have a chance to get A LOT of $$$ for something that was “morally questionable”… not a terrible act, but something that would prabably make me feel bad about myself. eventually, I declined the offer, but what surprised me was how much time I spent considering it. it wasn’t an immediate “no” like I’d like to think about myself.
I guess if I was in “dire and desperate circumstances”, perhaps I would feel more tempted. it’s just too easy and too unfair to speculate what we would do in a given situation before it happens.
Well, now then.
When I had my first date with hubby, back in the dark ages, we saw Indecent Proposal… looking at how things have turned out? maybe not such a coincidence. I digress…
Do I have a price? Yes, but not for everything and sometimes that price is more than anyone could ever afford.
Sugar: I am shocked… not!
A million quid would be hard to turn down. And I guess not many ppl will.
The thing about sex, and if you really think about it truthfully, is that it’s never really “free”, is it?
Miss M: When you think about it there is a price to pay for everything we want in life (and not necessarily in monetary terms). The handing over cold, hard cash just makes it seem sleazy.
I would hesitate to evict a tenant that could not pay, but like Sugar said, if it comes down to losing the property, you don’t have an option.
KN: HAHAHA! I hear you can get more for individual body parts than for the whole. Although selling of a body part can put a damper on how must joy you’ll get from the money. Trust you to approach this post from a completely different angle!
Mr Rabbit: I had a look at the list over on your blog. Seems reasonable in most cases. My prices would differ though if I am doing it as a dare or a favour as opposed to doing it for a living or to get by. Deflowering?
Orquidea: You are a better person than I am and I say that without malice. Not that I consider myself to be a bad person. I am just a little more flexible when it comes what I can live with.
I am with you when it comes down to a live vs. death situation. I’d do anything to save the life of a loved one or my own for that matter.
Del: Haha.. hopefully the 90yr old grannie would not expect you to sleep with her every night of the week, if you know what I mean. Jeez, i can’t believe I just said that!
Euro: I know what you mean. There are a lot of things that come into play when you are in a given situation. It is never black and white. I suppose if you are a devout Christian (and I deliberately stayed away fro the religious aspects) it would be easier to deal with.
p.tyque: True, which is why i alluded to the mental impact it could have on one’s life. I would not be able to do something (no matter how much money is involved) if I know it would screw me up mentally.
Simple put: I have a price.
The trick is to reconcile the price in monetary terms with the price you pay psychologically.
I grew up in a household where a lot of emphasis was put on moral values. Somehow, I am not the same with my own kids even though I realise that they are up against a lot more than I was at their age. Sign of the times, perhaps?
Would I do a granny for her money? Only if she looks as good as Sophia Loren!
My housemates and I regularly discuss the idea of money buying happiness, and we’ve all come to the conclusion that it can indeed buy large amounts of happiness in the form of regular luxury holidays, fast cars, beautiful houses and opportunities you would otherwise never have. Let’s face it, these things do make people happy, and we’d be lying if we said we don’t want them.
However, we’ve also agreed that money can’t buy self fulfilment or love, although it can buy the illusion of both, and it is perhaps because of this that people hold fast to the idea that money can’t buy happiness.
I think having a lot of money can certainly give you a head start on the road to happiness, but you can’t expect that to be all you need for a fulfulling life.
As for everyone having a price, I too like to believe that I don’t, but if I’m truly honest with myself, I’m quite sure in the right circumstances I’m gonna be a-sellin’ my soul just like the next person! There are very few saints left in this world
Congrats on the new job Chitty!
Your post and the comments (especially Sugar’s, MissM’s & Kyknoord’s) had me laughing and thinking deeply at the same time. I am so with you – for a million bucks, I’d tickle another guy’s tonsils. Can’t be worse than kissing someone with morning breath, can it?
Interesting post! Your CV must read like a newspaper now
IB: Sophia Loren? You dog you… HAHAHA!
It was actually the same in my household when I grew up, but somehow we become more flexible on these things as we grow older.
Lopz: Welcome!
I’d certainly be a very unhappy chappy without my income. I helps me to lead a fulfilling life as you put it.
Guido: I reality one would do it for less than a million I think. No one in his right mind would pay that much for a mere kiss.Tonsil tickling and morning breath… you certainly put that in perspective for me.
TP: This time I am planning on staying for longer. My CV is becoming a bit bulky, what with the many job changes I’ve hand in the last 3 years. What can I say? The demand exceeds the supply.
Congrats on the new job! Seems to me your (ex) boss said what he said out of spite/jealousy.
He probably knows that he’s not going to be able (or unwilling to) match the offer you got, hence the ‘everyone has a price’ comment.
But to an extent, I do think everyone has a price. It all depends on how much is on offer and whether we’re able to go through with it.
We all have a price. For me it’s, uh, how much do you have on you at the moment?
Seriously, we all do and anyone that says otherwise is either delusional or lying. I always make it clear that I can be bought. For how much… that’s the question. It may be an incredibly high price and I know no one would pay it, but there’s always that chance.
Congrats on the job, I’m very happy for you!