Comments on: Spewing forth loose and intangible thoughts

By: Pequeña Orquidea

Pequeña Orquidea — Mon, 23 Jul 2007 12:12:57 +0000

Oh boy, I’ve been thinking something similar in the past days. But I think it was connected with Friends’ day celebrated in Argentina. I see your point and have the same attitude towards old friends, striking up new relationships, etc. And you know what? Sometimes it’s good to let things flow. It is up to you when you feel ready to make new friends, or to turn to old ones.

By: chitty

chitty — Fri, 20 Jul 2007 09:16:06 +0000

Guido: Ditto. The guilt is always there, isn’t it?
Katt: Hahah… Dr 90210 can do that to you. Large amounts of red wine helps, but is by means a surefire remedy.

By: Katt

Katt — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 23:08:47 +0000

… where’s the googly eyed emoticon?

This entry just smacks of Virgo so I am copping out of attempting to make any intelligent comments here. I blame it on the wine and an episode of Dr 90210.

By: Guido

Guido — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 07:12:19 +0000

Here’s my two cents.
You will always carry your friendships with you, even the ones you have lost. Together all of them constitute a family… your family… that is held together by unbreakable bonds of shared history, experiences and guilt.
And that, my friend is something that not even time can erase.

By: chitty

chitty — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 07:02:55 +0000

Terri: I am happy to hear you had a good time in SA. I guess is not only where the heart is, but also where your people are. I think it was Madiba who once said: "People are people through (because of) other people" IB: Good perspective there, mate. I'll definitely take what you said into consideration. The other thing that bothers me about new friends is that I always get the feeling that they want to be around me (or anyone for that matter) because of what they can get out of me. Friends with an agenda. Aren't they just the worst?! Tripeak: Loyalty to friends always comes in my book. You are so right, I should take a good look at my schedule, shuffle a few things around and make more time to be with them. Sugar: I know it must be extra tough for you being in a new country. "friendships no matter how long they last, serve their purpose for that period of time". Nice... I like that. Esther: It does get harder as you get older, hence my "unwillingness" to invest all that time and effort into a new friendship. With the ppl you grew up with it was a just a natural progression. You chose your friends by what you had in common and things developed naturally from there. Lucy: Only you. An equal opportunity friend... heheheh. You are spot on. Friendships do not last forever. It's best to accept it and move on. Hopefully new friendships emerge to see you through the next leg of your journey.

By: livewire

livewire — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 04:39:42 +0000

People change. We change. That’s why I dislike everyone equally, that way it’s all fair and square. Ha. Humans are just weird. We’re a fickle bunch and we strike up ‘friendships’ and carry on with them just until we can think of a reason to end it.

By: Esther

Esther — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 20:33:31 +0000

It is rather daunting to allow other people in to your life and it’s a bit of a chicken egg situation. How do you trust someone unless you’ve placed them in a situation of trust? The older you get the more this situation arises. People move on, or not and seeing someone by appointment isn’t such a bad thing. One thing I still don’t understand is going on extended holiday with friends. That has so never worked for me. Especially when they want to get up at 4am to watch the sun rise. I think not!

By: sugar007

sugar007 — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 16:32:21 +0000

Jeez. No rolling of eyes here because your post strongly mirrored my feelings about friendship at the moment. Your post scared me a little because your thoughts are exactly what I feel.
In the past I felt that if I hadn’t seen an old friend for a long time, things were wrong but I found that when we do meet up it is like we never left. We might not be friends in terms of proximity but we will be in spirit. And of course some friendships don’t sustain the test of time because as humans we evolve and change.
New friendships are a different matter. Nowadays it feels that friendship is very flighty. But like IB says if you meet people you click with, it is worth investing the effort because you never know who might be your friend for the next 30 years of your life. Someone said to me that friendships no matter how long they last, serve their purpose for that period of time. Like everything else it is a life experience. Anyway enuff of my ramblings, I will stop hijacking your post!!

Great post by the way.

By: tripeak

tripeak — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 14:32:05 +0000

I couldn’t agree with IB more! Ultimately you’ll make time for those people you really care about.

By: IB

IB — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 10:42:14 +0000

It is only natural that friendships wane over time. We all develop at our own pace and there comes a time when perhaps the one friends outgrows the other. Having said that, making time to spend with your old mates is key to keeping the friendship alive, even when it means scheduling an appointment. A friendship is a relationship and you have to work hard at it to keep it alive. That’s life for you!
As for the “unwanted” friends; don’t feel obligated to be friendly with everyone that you meet. There will never be enough of you to go around. Stick to the ones you know and let everyone else hover on the periphery. If you meet someone new that you click with, then by all means take it to the next level. Don’t postpone new experiences.